Do you think it is harder for poor people to find a partner? After all, if you are poor and have no money to afford fancy dates, how would you be able to attract someone to go out with you? Where can you go anyway with little or no money?
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Even when I was a student, dating still cost money. We weren鈥檛 earning at all then and what we had were from our parents. So, obviously we can鈥檛 spend a lot on dates. But still to go anywhere with a partner meant money had to be spent. For example, the common dating activities are going to the movies and having a meal, both of which involve cash outflow.
So, for those who don鈥檛 earn a lot, I think it takes a lot of creativity to be in the dating game. If you can鈥檛 afford to spend a lot, you need to think of free or less costly activities that will hold your partner鈥檚 interest. For instance, if you don鈥檛 have the money for a fancy meal, you will have to make do with meals at home. The question then becomes, can you cook well? What would you cook? Furthermore, if you have someone living with you, you probably won鈥檛 have enough privacy bringing your date home.
In a way, that is why money is a common issue in a relationship. Even if we tell ourselves that money doesn鈥檛 matter when it comes to love, it will at some point or other, especially when we fail to discuss our finances upfront.
My thought is that expatriate men (and women) who start talking about marriage and very serious things right away are normally not emotionally stable. They feel a need to connect with someone no matter what. They are scared of being alone and that drives their every action. If they later back off it is because they are too busy thinking about what might happen later and have worked themselves into a frenzy over the possibility of growing old alone.
And as far as the snooping, something had to have created the desire to snoop in the first place. You don鈥檛 just trip and fall into snooping. Whether the expat guy had done something to create an untrustworthy situation, or if she has some baggage from previous relationships that she can鈥檛 shed, there had to be a beginning moment of why she snooped. And that will be the bigger issue than the actual snooping in the long term.
I鈥檓 the last person to advocate not forgiving expatriates, but here鈥檚 the picture you鈥檝e painted of the guy you鈥檙e dating: He鈥檚 unstable and a liar.
He鈥檚 unstable because he claims to feel the same strong feelings and desire for relationship with 3 women at once. The way you describe it doesn鈥檛 seem as if he鈥檚 expressing interest in more than one person, which we all do until we find the one that we actually want to pursue a relationship with. He was expressing his desire to be in a relationship with her to three different women. Just changing the names makes it seem as if he鈥檚 really not interested in any of these expatriate women as individuals: he鈥檚 simply concerned with the role she will play in his life. It鈥檚 not about you: it鈥檚 about him not being alone.
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